How To Be The Love You Seek

We all long to feel safe, seen, and loved.

Yet so many of us repeat the same painful patterns—pursuing connection while fearing rejection, giving more than we receive, or shutting down when love feels too close.

Are you ready to become the love you’ve always been seeking?

  • Break Cycles
  • Find Peace
  • Heal Your Relationships
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“This book, from a psychologist and a person who has forged her own path to connect with and be her own authentic self, is a practical, reader-friendly, and inspiring primer on how to extend true connection and love to others and to our hurting world.”

Gabor Maté — renowned speaker and bestselling author on addiction, stress and childhood development
How To Be The Love You Seek by Dr. Nicole LePera

The Tools You Need to Heal One Page at a Time

A paradigm-shifting guide to healing your relationships, beginning with the one you have with yourself.

This Book Will Help You…

  • How your childhood is impacting your current relationships
  • What impact early childhood trauma may have on your mind and body
  • How to reconnect with your true authentic Self
  • How to tap into your heart and create the relationship you always wanted
  • What steps to take to begin to empower yourself in all your relationships
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Discover how How To Be The Love You Seek is changing lives — one page at a time.

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Got to page 4 and there it was staring back at me, the answer to what I’ve been struggling with and trying to understand for my entire life: “And to be emotionally connected with yourself you have to be able to authentically feel and express your emotions.” I’m only on page 4 and my mind is already blown, well done!!

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“Easy to understand”

It helped me identify why I had developed relational patterns in my life due to how I had grown up in a trauma filled home. It also helps to provide suggestions on how to change the years of unhealthy patterns.

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“Digestible trauma help!”

The way this is written with such thought, research and real talk helps move the needle in coping and developing new responses that are healthier and more aligned to create a fuller life! A must read!!!

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“Life changing inspirations”

I love reading this book and it helped me to grow and heal as a person. I found a lot of things resonating with me, especially thinking how all the childhood traumas can affect our relationship to ourselves and to those around us.

How To Be The Love You Seek

How To Be The Love You Seek is more than a book — it’s a roadmap to self-healing.

In How to Be the Love You Seek, #1 New York Times bestselling author Dr. LePera offers a new path to healing our relationships, beginning with the one you have with yourself.

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